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Don’t Come Yet (Christopher’s Song)

(I was reminded today of this lyric that I wrote when I was 19 years old, and expecting my first child. I used to play it to him often when he was in his mother’s stomach. After he was born, and even up to the time he was ten or so, he would curl up into a fetal position on his bed when I played it.)

Don’t come yet, I haven’t made the world, into what it should be,
Don’t come yet, there’s still some problems in this world,
I don’t want you to see,
There’s still a lot of lies and hate, it’s gonna take some time to change it,
Don’t come yet I haven’t made the world, into what it should be,

Don’t come yet, I haven’t had the time, to make the world a better place,
Don’t come yet, there’s still some problems in this world,
I don’t want you to face,
But I guess there’s nothing I can say,
You’re already on your way,
But don’t worry, I guess it’s for the better,
We’ll change the world,
Together.

The Allegiance Of Children

The Allegiance Of Children
Cast, as in iron,
Unwavering, strong,
Yet so delicate,
As we prove,
When we wrongly,
Abuse it and force them to
Choose recklessly,
In so many ways,
When we act selfishly,
When the need to be right
Supercedes what is best,
And our actions uncaring,
Put them to the test,
“Do I have to choose mum?
Do I have to choose dad?
Do I have to keep secrets,
I shouldn’t have had?”
We use them as pawns,
In our pathetic plays,
Then they’re left with questions,
For the rest of their days.

In the morning….

…as he leaves the house he removes one of his earphones, leaving Kate Bush to serenade him on only one side for a moment. He does so partly so he can hear the sound of the children playing outside in the nursery school across the way, but mostly so he can hear them if they say hello, which they often do. He wouldn’t want them to think he ignored them. That would never do. Having passed the children and heading to the bus stop he restores his Kate Bush balance and begins his day.

The guilt of the working mom

I’m sitting in the hospital waiting room and The Today Show is playing on one of the TVs.  The ladies are discussing the “guilt of the working mom,” whatever the hell that means.  Maybe it’s because I’m a guy, but I don’t understand why women would feel guilty about working and not staying home with their children.  I don’t mind dropping the boys off and heading to work.  In fact I could drop them off permanently and come back when they are fully-developed adults.  Okay so that’s a bit extreme even for me.
 
Still, I don’t think anybody should feel guilty about providing for their children’s future.  But perhaps it’s different for some people, they feel like they will miss some major milestone in their child’s development or something: their baby’s first step, spoken word, ad nauseum; if they are not in their child’s life every nanosecond.  I did get to experience both those things and I can honestly say they are overrated.  Now that I think about it, I don’t even remember what my firstborn said.  Luckily moms remember those kinds of things.

I don’t really have anything against these people, I just feel like women in general need to give themselves a break and know that they are good mothers and that leaving their children for a few hours is okay.  These ladies talking about guilt are not doing anybody any favors and might even make women feel worse about themselves.  Just my 2 cents…